God's invited us onto this journey with Him. A journey that transforms us. A journey that brings pain, discomfort, awareness, beauty, depth, character, wisdom, ...freedom. And it's actually a journey that you can take a vacation from at any moment. This journey is solely our decision to remain steadfast in. For with much wisdom, comes much sorrow. ( Ecc. 1:18 ) The greater percentage of people in the church aren't down with the sorrow. Nor are they down with the steadfast part. Until they are down, they cannot be pliable pieces of clay in the hands of the Creator.
Gods been opening my eyes in seeing the discrepancy in a lot of romantic relationships between "church people". Simply, most of them are not equally yoked. I've met some amazing and truly godly men, who are with gorgeous women... these woman have yet to be single for just one season of their lives. I don't want to sound rash, but is it fair to say that if you have never had a simple year of singleness - there is a reality of your heart that you have yet to see? Yet, on the other hand, I don't want to sound judgmental, nor discredit that God is in operation in all circumstances and He is the one who reveals the realities of our hearts, however and whenever He chooses. It just so happens that our own will and human tendencies put us in the path of the bullet.
While the rarest of women are remaining steadfast in allowing God to stir up their hearts and shape their character painfully, the majority of women are utterly content in themselves, only because of the godly man that chose them. Does that make sense? This makes me so frustrated. It makes me wonder sometimes how easy it would be for us to start dressing and looking like most women, while taking a vacation from the purging and find contentment in a godly man.
As a godly man, don't you want a woman who is far beyond her flawless figure and her crazy talents? Yes? Well then please start acting like it and stop dating the women solely known for their foolishly good looks and formless-ness. Don't deny.
As I bring this frustration to God, I am asking for Him to reveal why this bothers me so much. It's discouraging wondering why so many godly men are dating girls who haven't been through the freakin fire. I'd like to think that they are in search of a Proverbs 31 woman...
My prayer is that the men in the church who have a yearning and hunger for Gods mysteries and wisdom would not settle for just a formless woman, who is easy on the eyes, but rather allow God to showcase His perpetually glorious work in the woman He brings their way, before the hunting even begins. If men could do this, I bet an abundance of women would jump back on board with the purging, the awareness, the revelation, the refinement, the healing and the freedom God desires for them.
My prayer for us women is that we fight to stay on this journey and we fight our tendencies to run away from the fire.
Lastly, I'm in no way blaming men for anything. :)